Aging in Place

–      You’re always changing things.

He says.

–      Less change than a nursing home, Dad.

He fingers me from behind, leaving the kitchen.

According to the Internet, I am assisting my father to Age in Place.

I move at a snail’s pace but when I look back, I see real change in my efforts. Thanks to help from certain others;)

–      I’m sorry to make a servant out of you, dear.

He says.

I help him put on his shoes for church.

Jackie of many new trades, my learning curve is steep.

– I want to die a man’s death. Shot at 92 by a jealous husband.

He says on the way to the hospital.

Symptoms of a heart attack in the passenger seat, my nagging ambition is gone and gratitude for this opportunity returns.

A nurse is charmed and hugs him.

–      My old friend Harry used to say that I am the only man he knew that could be standing on scaffolding with a rope round my neck and still see the humour in it.

Lying in the ER with oxygen and tubes, he leans over,

–      Don’t cry when I go, Katie. I’ll be up with the Master or down with friends.

Emergency drill over and safely home, Dad naps as I plan more changes. Phone in the bathroom and a rail into the bathtub.


About Morbid Optimist

My name is Katryna Mary Brooke Ormiston. I am 35 years old and after living in Vancouver for a decade, I am returning home to my 81 year old father’s hobby farm on Vancouver Island to care for him in the final stages of his life. This blog is to document my journey, process my experiences along the way and hopefully share and feel connected to a community beyond the three and a half acres I find myself on. A message in a bottle in the cyber-sea.
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8 Responses to Aging in Place

  1. Lynn Saffery says:

    Who actually IS the morbid optimist!

  2. beautiful, a friend of Kristen’s, lovely to be invited in your world. Thank you for sharing, Katryna

  3. misslillies says:


  4. Glad to see Mr.O still alive and kicking…makes me consider increasing my scotch intake!!??
    -Your sis is okay and safe here in Gotemba. Smiles from Japan!

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